Unfortunately, in this economy most employees can be categorized as recently downsized, soon to be downsized or scared of being downsized. Obviously, emotions are involved in all categories. We have all heard stories of angry employees seeking revenge on their supervisors or co-workers after being fired or downsized. Of course, those instances are the exception, but it is completely natural to feel a variety of emotions, including anger when you lose a job. How you deal with those emotions can greatly affect your success in finding new employment.
The Pink Slip. Whether your job is being downsized, eliminated or moved to another state, you may still hear the words “fired” in your head. Many people report that they don’t remember hearing their supervisor say anything after those first few words. I remember an interviewee that explained that she was told her job was being eliminated but the company clearly offered her another position in the department. She was so shocked at the first part of the news that she completely missed the last things that were said. She got up and walked out and lost the opportunity to take advantage of the new position. Don’t let your emotions take over. Ask for a few moments to gather your thoughts and then come back to the table and listen to what they have to say.
Request a Reference. Whatever you may think of this company, you need their reference if you are going to standout to the next potential employer. After your supervisor has finished his part of the discussion, it is your turn to respond. It may take all your inner strength but be gracious and professional in your response. Thank them for the opportunity you had to learn from your boss and the company. Ask if they would provide you with a letter of reference. A letter of reference will serve you much better in the future because the next round of layoffs could affect your boss, and then any reference you had may be lost.
Exit Stage Right. I shouldn’t have to say this to professionals but when emotions are raw we tend to do stupid things. Do not damage or steal company property when you leave. Quickly pack your things and leave without any further conversation to your co-workers. Make sure you immediately turn in any company parking cards, keys, or equipment you may have with you or at home.
Healing Time. Take some time to work through your emotions. Loss of a job can damage your self-esteem and you will need every ounce of that self-esteem when you start back on your job search. Negative thoughts will keep you in a downward spiral so vow to stay positive. A friend of mine recently said that you should laugh more than you cry to begin healing.
Back in the Saddle. When you can successfully discuss your last position with little or no emotion, you are ready to start your job search. Get some help with your resume and make sure it is a marketing piece that succinctly reflects your skills and experience. Post your resume on the job boards. Meet with local recruiters that specialize in your area of expertise. Get out and network at local events. Tackle the social media side and spread your net as far as you can. You never know where that next opportunity may come from.
The market is tough right now but we are seeing an upswing in professional positions. Many of my clients have said that when they are ready to hire, they want a great candidate. With a graceful transition, a solid reference, and little healing, you may just be the great candidate they need.